Customarily, the bride and groom are in separate rooms as their wedding festivities begin. The men encircle the groom and, singing and dancing, escort him to his bride. If the bride and groom have maintained the custom of seclusion prior to their wedding, this will be the first time they have seen each other in several days. The groom approaches the bride and lowers a veil over her face in preparation for the upcoming ceremonies. The blessing “May the Lord make you as Sarah, Rivkah, Rachel and Leah” is recited. The groom then departs, surrounded again by the male guests, who are singing and dancing all the while. It is often customary for other men to bless the bride, most typically the father of the groom, the grandfathers of the groom and the bride, and of course, the bride’s father. The wedding ceremony begins shortly thereafter, and couple next meet under the chuppah.
If the bride and groom have maintained the custom of seclusion prior to their wedding, this will be the first time they have seen each other in several days.
There are two commonly cited origins for the bedeken. One is the matriarch Rivkah, who covered herself with a veil when she first approached the tent of her intended husband, Isaac. In so doing she signified that she was setting herself aside for him. Since then, the veil has been taken to represent modesty. The other source for the veiling ceremony is the story of Jacob, who was tricked into marrying Leah, the sister of his intended wife, because she was covered during the wedding. He did not confirm the identity of the woman he wed until after the marriage rites were performed, and had to wait and work, for seven years before he was permitted to marry the woman he had meant to – Rachel. By covering his bride with a veil, a groom ascertains her identity, and confirms that he is marrying the woman of his heart’s desire. Mystical traditions also hold that the divine presence (Shechinah) shines through a bride on her wedding day, and that the intensity of this experience demands the privacy afforded by the veil.
Rows 1 & 2 feature images from Kayla & Aryeh Graber’s wedding courtesy of Eric Benchimol Photography
Row 3 features images from Naomi and David Elmaleh’s wedding are courtesy of Hudson Taylor
Row 4 features images from Nava & John Hoffman’s wedding courtesy of Nate Kogan